Negative feelings are always the worst, but feeling lost, that's hard to sort out. Trying your hardest to please people and to make them happy often has no consequences apart from the words "thank you". Now I know we aren't supposed to give to receive, but sometimes the feeling of appreciation doesn't show through those two words. I guess my point is that if some people are willing to bend over backwards to make others happy, then why can't other people bend over backwards for you in return. I don't mean doing this through extravagant gifts, expensive days out or even any involvement with money, but through the pure kindness of being there for you generally and when you need it most.
I feel that when we grow close to certain people in our lives and we get to know them so well, a little part of ourselves becomes emotionally invested in them. I mean that in the sense that if they needed us, we would be there, checking that they were ok. I'd like to think that we all have at least one person who in a drastic situation, would definitely be there, but the common feeling of neglect from those people makes you consider whether or not they would be. A simple "how are you?" tends to go a miss and if it is asked it doesn't seem like they are asking it as though they genuinely care.
In situations where you are feeling stuck and detached from the way you used to feel, the feeling of jealousy sets in. You start to consider what you have done wrong and how close you really are when you see the people you thought you knew getting close to others. They are constantly laughing, texting and meeting up which makes you feel so frustrated when you did so much for them and in return they treat someone else with the friendship that you deserved. However, you are still the one to text them and ask them if I'd like to meet up even though you know them well enough to know that they won't bother replying. Well at least they were able to know that you wanted to see them.
You then feel like there is no point in even trying to communicate with them which then makes you realise that if you don't start the conversation, you don't make the phone call or you don't arrange whatever plans you may have, they won't.
It takes more than one person to make a relationship, whether that be a couple, friendship or family. If you are the only one trying, what's the point?
Dotty
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I feel that when we grow close to certain people in our lives and we get to know them so well, a little part of ourselves becomes emotionally invested in them. I mean that in the sense that if they needed us, we would be there, checking that they were ok. I'd like to think that we all have at least one person who in a drastic situation, would definitely be there, but the common feeling of neglect from those people makes you consider whether or not they would be. A simple "how are you?" tends to go a miss and if it is asked it doesn't seem like they are asking it as though they genuinely care.
In situations where you are feeling stuck and detached from the way you used to feel, the feeling of jealousy sets in. You start to consider what you have done wrong and how close you really are when you see the people you thought you knew getting close to others. They are constantly laughing, texting and meeting up which makes you feel so frustrated when you did so much for them and in return they treat someone else with the friendship that you deserved. However, you are still the one to text them and ask them if I'd like to meet up even though you know them well enough to know that they won't bother replying. Well at least they were able to know that you wanted to see them.
You then feel like there is no point in even trying to communicate with them which then makes you realise that if you don't start the conversation, you don't make the phone call or you don't arrange whatever plans you may have, they won't.
It takes more than one person to make a relationship, whether that be a couple, friendship or family. If you are the only one trying, what's the point?
Dotty
X
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