I feel that honesty is something you can't really understand unless you are honest yourself. Honesty is an attribute that I strongly admire when used correctly. For example, if you are experiencing something that you need help with and that help is offered, lying about the issue doesn't achieve anything as it just creates more problems.
Sometimes when explaining things to others we miss out details that those people later find out about and it comes across as though we had lied, when in truth we just didn't explain the whole story. Written down, this is an obvious difference, but verbally it doesn't seem that way.
Honesty plays a vital role in any relationship because if you can't be truthful then what does that really say about you as a person?
I'm sure that most people feel that occasionally bending the truth is ok which, in some situations, it can be. However, when it comes down to the truth catching up on you later, was it really worth the lie you told or the grief it will now cause? Keeping something from someone and lying to them are two completely different things, but lying to someone in order to make them happy and hear what they want to hear is a completely different thing altogether. The saying "honesty is the best policy" is one that we just brush off, but it shouldn't be.
If problems arise and you feel that you can't be completely truthful to those you are revealing the information to then either keep it to yourself or really consider why you can't be honest to those you think you trust most. If the reason bares any relation to your consideration of their feelings, then I'm sorry but you need to obliterate that thought. Telling anyone anything is your choice, but consider who you're telling it to and know that it could have consequences. For example, if you need advice and you confide in your Mum and you tell her everything but then go and discuss the same things with your partner, but alter the truth to make them happy or because you're embarrassed etc., that could effect you because if your Mum and partner end up in conversation about it, the whole truth will come out.
Words are something we should use wisely and honest is something we should be when considering others and ourselves.
Dotty
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Sometimes when explaining things to others we miss out details that those people later find out about and it comes across as though we had lied, when in truth we just didn't explain the whole story. Written down, this is an obvious difference, but verbally it doesn't seem that way.
Honesty plays a vital role in any relationship because if you can't be truthful then what does that really say about you as a person?
I'm sure that most people feel that occasionally bending the truth is ok which, in some situations, it can be. However, when it comes down to the truth catching up on you later, was it really worth the lie you told or the grief it will now cause? Keeping something from someone and lying to them are two completely different things, but lying to someone in order to make them happy and hear what they want to hear is a completely different thing altogether. The saying "honesty is the best policy" is one that we just brush off, but it shouldn't be.
If problems arise and you feel that you can't be completely truthful to those you are revealing the information to then either keep it to yourself or really consider why you can't be honest to those you think you trust most. If the reason bares any relation to your consideration of their feelings, then I'm sorry but you need to obliterate that thought. Telling anyone anything is your choice, but consider who you're telling it to and know that it could have consequences. For example, if you need advice and you confide in your Mum and you tell her everything but then go and discuss the same things with your partner, but alter the truth to make them happy or because you're embarrassed etc., that could effect you because if your Mum and partner end up in conversation about it, the whole truth will come out.
Words are something we should use wisely and honest is something we should be when considering others and ourselves.
Dotty
X
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