I always seem to grow really close to people who then change and distance themselves from my life. This habit of mine is one that has become incredibly apparent recently as with age, I'm starting to see who my true friends and family are.
I know how people should actually treat me, as opposed to how they shouldn't and in the past if I was treated badly I would of kept my mouth shut, giving those people the chance to treat me badly time and time again. Trying to see the best in people is something that I always seem to fall victim to and although, in some cases it has been worth it, in others it has come back to bite with a vengence.
Some people have changed by completely disassociating themselves with me for unfathomable reasons, while others are so two faced that they are fine talking to me one minute and not the next and this often seems to be related to the people that they are surrounded by at different times. Perhaps they've portrayed me as a specific type of person to some people, and another to others.
I totally understand that people change, I mean heck, I've changed loads in the past couple of years. I'm far more head strong than I've ever been and maybe that's to do with the knowledge I now have due to those that have distanced themselves from me.
The unfortunate thing is, that at times, I often feel that those that have changed have won because I'm then left feeling lonely and hurt. The funny thing is that had they turned around in an instant and wanted to be a part of my life again, I would have more than likely been ok with that, but then what does that say about me? Am I too forgiving? Or perhaps too nice? Who knows. I often ponder about the fact that I have lost a few friends and family members, through choices of their own, but I've lost them none the same and through losing them, I've lost mutual friends and also the potential to be friends with certain people due to how that one original friend/family member has described me to be as a person. However, I then realise that I've lost those individuals through no fault of my own. I know that I was there for them when they needed me and acted like any decent human would towards them, which then brings me back to questoning why they left. If I did nothing wrong, what caused them to disappear?
It all comes back to choice. People change in respect to their personality traits through choice. No-one else makes them do it. If they couldn't or can't choose to keep me in their lives then maybe I'm better off as a person not knowing the changed version of themselves.
Flourishing as a person and moving on in life is of course normal, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you have to leave those who were always there behind.
Dotty
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I know how people should actually treat me, as opposed to how they shouldn't and in the past if I was treated badly I would of kept my mouth shut, giving those people the chance to treat me badly time and time again. Trying to see the best in people is something that I always seem to fall victim to and although, in some cases it has been worth it, in others it has come back to bite with a vengence.
Some people have changed by completely disassociating themselves with me for unfathomable reasons, while others are so two faced that they are fine talking to me one minute and not the next and this often seems to be related to the people that they are surrounded by at different times. Perhaps they've portrayed me as a specific type of person to some people, and another to others.
I totally understand that people change, I mean heck, I've changed loads in the past couple of years. I'm far more head strong than I've ever been and maybe that's to do with the knowledge I now have due to those that have distanced themselves from me.
The unfortunate thing is, that at times, I often feel that those that have changed have won because I'm then left feeling lonely and hurt. The funny thing is that had they turned around in an instant and wanted to be a part of my life again, I would have more than likely been ok with that, but then what does that say about me? Am I too forgiving? Or perhaps too nice? Who knows. I often ponder about the fact that I have lost a few friends and family members, through choices of their own, but I've lost them none the same and through losing them, I've lost mutual friends and also the potential to be friends with certain people due to how that one original friend/family member has described me to be as a person. However, I then realise that I've lost those individuals through no fault of my own. I know that I was there for them when they needed me and acted like any decent human would towards them, which then brings me back to questoning why they left. If I did nothing wrong, what caused them to disappear?
It all comes back to choice. People change in respect to their personality traits through choice. No-one else makes them do it. If they couldn't or can't choose to keep me in their lives then maybe I'm better off as a person not knowing the changed version of themselves.
Flourishing as a person and moving on in life is of course normal, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you have to leave those who were always there behind.
Dotty
X
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